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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Her passion for writing has resulted in fifteen books, including: Co-Dependents Anonymous and The Grief Club. Things actually improved then – Maria was respected at work, and she enjoyed the new freedom it gave her. I really want to read this book and the first few pages were very interesting but, despite downloading it 4 times, the book simply will not work on my Kindle beyond a certain point. I'm going to give it a 3 at this point, as I do think there are some really good insights that I felt were beneficial.

Many times while reading, I found myself getting frustrated with this back and forth; there really wasn't any real help given to "stop doing the thing", save for just not doing it, or participating in a twelve-step program. Much of this book references alcoholism (people often develop codependent behaviors in response to having an addict in their lives), and while that is not what brought about my codependent behaviors, I still found this book to be really helpful.Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term “codependency” in 1986. But I learned from this book and took a step in the right direction in trying to regain control of my life. Somente após este período é que será cobrado automaticamente o valor da mensalidade, utilizando o método de pagamento cadastrado.

I hadn't realized that my behavior was this way, nor had I even heard of codependency until one of our increasingly frequent fights went too far. If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent - -and you may find yourself in this book -- Codependent No More. I have been aware of the term 'Codependent' for a long time, but it only recently popped up on my personal radar as something to look into and understand better. Driven into the ground financially by her husband’s alcoholism, Melody turned a life-long passion for writing into a career in journalism, writing about the issues that had consumed her for years. Priešingai, ji siekia tiesiog paglostyti tave ir patikinti - tu viską darai gerai, nieko tokio, visiems nutinka, svarbu per daug nesikankinti.Next, the codependent tries to figure out how to cope with a situation that is not their fault and they have no control over. It’s a one-day-at-a-time process that can be quite exciting – when we take steps toward recovery, we feel an instant burst of freedom.

As a result, codependents become controlling, moody and often adopt a martyr syndrome that never fixes anything. I picked them up at the library after hearing the term codependent used in The Emotionally Abusive Relationship. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency -- charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. I think the baseline message was articulated very well, in terms of what the core dynamics of codependency are - essentially, caring too much about, and being too influenced by, what other people think, want, etc.We trust that Someone greater than ourselves knows, has ordained, and cares about waht is happening. I feel annoyed and disrespected in light of these perspectives being so heavily 'pushed' - from the cover I had no idea that this was so primary to the entire contents of the book. But instead of doing it the healthy way--controlling themself by setting boundaries and knowing how to enforce them--they try to control the other person by "helping" them in various ways.

I read this slowly, over a few months, digesting each new piece and practicing applying everything in my day-to-day life. In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child. There was some really useful discussion about this, as well as plenty of individuals' stories which aided, to some degree, in describing some real-life scenarios that 'codependents' find themselves living and reliving. Despite my gripes here, I do recommend the read for folks whose life circumstances fooled them into believing that they're not good enough. Bet Beattie dievą įtraukia kaip būtiną pagalbos sau žingsnį, nuolat kalba apie atsidavimą Aukštesniajai Jėgai, nors ir pabrėžia, kad tą dievą galima bet kaip suprasti.I would recommend it to anyone who has a family member or loved one who is alcoholic, compulsive or just generally hard to be around. I want to be very clear, though - I am NOT telling other people to abandon or avoid 12 Steps work if that is what they choose to engage for themselves. I was talking to my father on the phone one day and I was explaining to him how I have no problem exercising and eating right when Otty is gone but I can’t seem to keep it up when he is home. My concern is the presumptuous presentation style of this book's contents, which seems to imply that healing codependence issues (or alcoholism, etc) is dependent on adherence to the 12 Steps - as if codependency is inextricably linked with 12 Steps view of illness and addiction, which is potentially damaging nonsense, in my view. This was the first book on codependency I've read, and while there really were some genuine gems of insight peppered throughout I really hope there are other good books on the topic available which take in a much more broad, unbiased, rigorous approach to its examination.

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